It happens to all of us eventually.
No matter what our goal is, we meet up with an obstacle that threatens to hinder or perhaps undo it altogether. Sales stagger, distractions make demands, and rain refuses to fall (or refuses to stop falling, as the case may be).
What happens when we meet up with a difficulty, whether due to external contingencies or to our own mistakes?
We can fret, we can fuss, we can fume. We can even give up altogether.
Or we can stretch ourselves to learn.
- Identify three things that you did well in the situation in question. This puts you into a positive mindset, particularly if accompanied by thanksgiving.
- Identify one thing that you could do better. Not the one thing you did wrong, but the area in which you can improve.
This simple exercise is powerful because it encourages us to learn and grow, instead of becoming frustrated or beating ourselves up over setbacks. It rewires our brains to focus on the positive instead of the negative.
With this habit in place, we no longer see stumbling blocks—we see stepping stones.